To cut a long story short I have split up with my boyfriend. I've moved out of the flat and I'm currently living between my mothers house and on my friends sofa. Its not an ideal situation half way through my final year of university but I had to get out. I don't want to go into every detail of what induced the break up because I don't think that it is necessary. All I want to say is that for the past five years I have unknowingly been in an emotionally abusive relationship. Its incredibly difficult to type that because I had no idea that I was a victim. It got to the point where I was just a shadow of my former self. I created a bubble and pretended that things were ok, I thought I could power through it but it was destroying me.
I don't want this post to be a 'sob-story' in any way I just want to spread the message that it can happen to anyone and you may not even realise whats going on. If you have any suspicions please check here & remember ITS NOT YOUR FAULT! Its better to escape before things get out of hand. I'm away from it now and I feel like I'm a much stronger person. I can concentrate on whats best for me.
I've not been single since I was 15 so as you can probably imagine its a massive change for me! I'm feeling really positive about the future and I'm sure that I'll get back into the swing of blogging again soon-I've missed it! So I just wanted to say thanks for sticking with me and I'll be making a comeback!
Rachelle xxx
<3 i really feel for you my dear, i completely know where you're coming from, my past relationship was completely the same to the point where i'd cut myself off from all of my friends and went from a bubbly, outgoing 17 year old to nothing, really.
ReplyDeletei hope you're okay soon sweetheart, if you ever need to talk or even want to meet in preston for a coffee & a chat, i'm here :)
xoxo.
I'm so sorry to hear this. You have absolutely done the right thing. I'm sure you will hear this sort of thing from a lot of people, but my last relationship was a lot like this. It's tragic how many people stay with partners who are possessive and put them down. I have a friend at the moment who is in a similar situation but believes it is her fault. I wish you all the best in getting back to your old self xx
ReplyDeleteLots of love & hugs Rachey. You're brave for posting this, it's all for the best, you can finally find yourself again.
ReplyDelete& always remember, you are bloody lovely :) xxx
wow good for you for admitting it a lot of people find it hard and go with the 'it will get better' then a year later its still the same. I was in a awful relationship for 3 years i wasnt happy with him, i just didnt want to be 'alone' because id never been single since 15 either and it can be scary! I hope you're okay you have family and friends who will look out for you. I envy people who 'dont need a man' because i am usually quite dependent in relationships five years is a long time to put up with something emotionally abusive i hope you'll be better soon have lots of 'me' time wishing u the best lovely :) xxx
ReplyDeleteOh no I am so sorry to hear this. It is great to hear that you are moving on and becoming a stronger person. Wish you all the luck for the future.
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I'm so sorry it happened to you I have huge respect for posting about this. I've had what i gather may have been a similar experience. Things will get better lovely, i promise. XXXX
ReplyDeletePs. I took your advise and now i have a glittery BnM skull too. x
I'm so sorry this happened to you. I was in one of these relationships as well, and became a completely different person to the bubbly person I once was and it was the most destructive period of my life. Everytime I had tried to get out, he'd make me feel guilty for leaving and I'd go back. Luckily, it ended almost three years ago. It gets so much better, even though it takes time. Keep smiling :)
ReplyDeletep.s. Love your different hair stages!
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